There are a number of things that should and should not be done at weddings. If you’re planning to attend a wedding or two this year, here are the do’s and don’t for wedding guests.
Do’s For Wedding Guests
- Buy a Gift
- Be on Time
- Sit at Your Assigned Table
It is very important to RVSP by the expected date on the invitation. Brides put that date there as a deadline and usually have to have this number by a certain time in order to make arrangements for rented chairs, tables, and dinner plates. So much expense goes into wedding planning and much of that expense is dictated by guest numbers.
Even if you’re not able to attend, it’s polite to send a gift to the bride and groom letting them know that you care about them. When you do buy a gift, stick to the registry. The couple has put together this list because it is stuff that they need and know that they will use. Another thing to pay attention to is what has already been bought from the registry. Couples spend a ridiculous amount of time returning duplicated gifts.
Leave with plenty of time to get to the ceremony and even account for getting lost. You don’t want to show up late and have to sneak in the back. Plan to be at the ceremony 20 to 30 minutes early to give you enough time to find a seat and maybe chat with a few friends.
The couple spends a lot of time preparing the seating arrangements and while you may not understand why you’re across the room from one of your friends, the bride and groom have a reason for where you are placed. If you want to spend time with specific people then meet them out on the dance floor.
Don’ts for Wedding Guests
- Don’t Bring an Uninvited Guest
- Don’t Dress to Compete
- Don’t Leave Before the Cake is Cut
- Don’t Post on Social Media
- Don’t get in the way of the videographer or photographer
If you are not given a plus one, then don’t bring one. Don’t pencil in your significant other’s name on the RSVP. Don’t call the bride and ask her if it’s okay. It’s not. Don’t bring them.
Pay attention to the style of the invitation and what it suggests for the dress code. Don’t dress in an evening gown if the wedding is taking place in a barn. Be observant or even ask what the dress style is. Absolutely do not wear white, that’s a given. On the opposite hand, don’t under dress. Jeans and baseball caps are not okay. Women should wear dresses or skirts and men should wear slacks and a collared shirt at the very least.
This is an old rule, but there’s a good reason for it. Cutting the cake is considered a quiet sign to let the elderly guests know that it’s okay to leave. Since elderly guests tend to leave the reception early and not stay for the dancing, ending the night with dessert is a polite way to let them know they are allowed to leave. This rule applies to anyone who is going to leave the reception early.
While social media is a fun way to spread big news, it’s not your job to tell the bride and groom’s news. Wait until either the bride or the groom post a picture on social media to post your own. If the bride and groom are specifically asking you to tag your pictures with a specific hashtag then you have permission to post photos before the couple. Just be aware of what they are asking of you and if you’re not sure then don’t do it.
The bride and groom are paying professional videographers and photographers to capture their wedding so do not get in the way to snap your own picture. We’re pretty sure the couple would want the professional photo over your camera phone one.
When it comes down to making decisions on who to hire, make sure you hire a professional videographer!
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